tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post4753200905508954497..comments2023-10-10T05:17:55.737-07:00Comments on Crushed By Ingsoc: The Wrong Love- How I Ended up With ClaireCrushedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02479751225625007588noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-47702554442577832822008-06-24T17:12:00.000-07:002008-06-24T17:12:00.000-07:00As I have said before crushed, sometimes we simply...As I have said before crushed, sometimes we simply do the wrong things for the right reasons. <br><br>Can always say i agree or like what you have done or what you say, but i sure respect them since you have always been honest and open with them. <br><br>Tears without fears and "Mad World". Sounds really appropriate.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-54671465966037417392008-06-24T17:47:00.000-07:002008-06-24T17:47:00.000-07:00I feel a bit like nosy Ann from next door with my ...I feel a bit like nosy Ann from next door with my ear pressed against the wall :) I loved that line.<br><br>Hey..we've all been in dysfunctional hate/love relationships. I get the feeling you think worse of yourself than anyone else is thinking. To me, it just sounds like a bad relationship that you got out of. <br>I look back on the way I behaved 5 or 10 years ago and can be appalled at some of the callous things that I did. <br><br>I'm not going to say, "oh you wouldn't be like that in your next relationship because you learnt your lessons from it" because you might actually be a LOT like that same person. <br>I think it depends on where you are at in your life and how you respond to a certain person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-84829802298251696922008-06-24T20:29:00.000-07:002008-06-24T20:29:00.000-07:00Intriguing.I think I used to do it like Claire; to...Intriguing.<br>I think I used to do it like Claire; to 'force their hand', so to speak. Not anymore, I hope :-)<br><br>You hardly knew Claire, but you did what girls here do; its based on the premise 'it's not easy to find love, so don't be too quick to turn a good thing down'. Now, I can say, 'Even if he's a good thing, I don't want it.' *wry smile*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-91370886010345927962008-06-24T22:59:00.000-07:002008-06-24T22:59:00.000-07:00I feel like a bit of a voyeur, but then I'm sure i...I feel like a bit of a voyeur, but then I'm sure it's rather cathartic for you to write that all down. <br><br>It is quite the ugly story and neither of you behaved well. But I'm sure you both learned a lot from it and that's what life's all about. Making mistakes, learning from them and moving on. Not that you won't make more mistakes, just hopefully different ones.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-40440132882884256812008-06-25T00:02:00.000-07:002008-06-25T00:02:00.000-07:00So many things that can fuck up a relationship. Sh...So many things that can fuck up a relationship. She admitted she did it three times herself. Love is way too complicated sometimes. I think if you find one that isn't, then that might be the sign you've found the right one...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-29307547165990474052008-06-25T02:09:00.000-07:002008-06-25T02:09:00.000-07:00Its a big call to recognise ones own 'faults', for...Its a big call to recognise ones own 'faults', for want of a better way to say it. Think many have been guilty of falling for an ideal and then realising it will not work. Is it the loss of what becomes habit or loss of a belief that hurts the most , or both. Have only ever told 3 that I love them, two were mistakes, one never will be.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-33776246226879464622008-06-25T07:11:00.000-07:002008-06-25T07:11:00.000-07:00There is a fine line between love and hate and we ...There is a fine line between love and hate and we don't always know how to distinguish which side of the line we are balancing at...<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br>...but I understand you now. I really do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-60012136653811841432008-06-25T11:32:00.000-07:002008-06-25T11:32:00.000-07:00Crashie- I think yes, it was a classic case of doi...Crashie- I think yes, it was a classic case of doing the wrong thing for the right reasons.<br><br>I've certainly been no angel in my life, but at heart I think I'm basically a decent person.<br><br>From 'The Hurting'. Great album.<br><br>Kate- The best one was when we were-er- well, it was a hot summers day and the window was open.<br>And I whispered to claire 'anne's brrom is slowing- think she's listening?'<br><br>We gave her something to listen to...<br>Her broom stopped totally.<br><br>I really didn't know much better at the time.<br><br>The trick is, as I've realised AVOID CLAIRE-TYPE WOMEN.<br>Because those are the ones I seem to attract.<br>And yet, once the novelty of their infatuation wears off, fact is, they're not the sort of people I'd actually choose as close friends. and that of course, is the point.<br><br>Eve- That's how I feel. Fact is, it doesn't matter HOW much someone loves you, they have to give you that warm fuzzy feeling.<br><br>Yes, I DID think that for a long time. Now finally I've learned, better not to be loved at all, than be loved by the wrong person.<br><br>jmb- I DID learn, but not as quickly as you might think. The same cycle did sort of repeat itself over and over.<br><br>SORRY TO CUT OFF REPLIES, BUT BABY RELATED STUFF.<br><br>WILL COMPLETE REPLIES SHORTLY.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-54231261975404682262008-06-25T15:48:00.000-07:002008-06-25T15:48:00.000-07:00Well life is all about learning and not repeating ...Well life is all about learning and not repeating the mistakes. You have looked at it and seen the problems!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-91082736827891639612008-06-26T08:15:00.000-07:002008-06-26T08:15:00.000-07:00CBI I am always amazed at how much you lay open to...CBI I am always amazed at how much you lay open to the world. I write this sort of thing in metaphor or subtext because I would find the actual physical typing of it too difficult. And to write it so that it is good writing, and engaging, even easy to visualise - now that is very difficult indeed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-6128480916266232842008-06-26T10:37:00.000-07:002008-06-26T10:37:00.000-07:00Jmb- To continue, I think the final lesson to be l...Jmb- To continue, I think the final lesson to be learned, which it took me a long time to learn, was ben careful what you get yourself into.<br><br>Fusion- Always seems to be complicasted though, doesn't? My first love wasn't, really, but then again it complicated things ever after.<br><br>Nunyaa- I say it all too often, and I've hardly ever meant it. In the moment I've said it, yes. But it seems to be one of those things you can't retract.<br><br>Heart- Yes, but True Love can never turn to hate, surely? Infatuations, yes, but never forget 'It is not love that which conditions makes'<br><br>I'm not THAT complicated :)<br><br>CherryPie- Yes, I attract the wrong women, basically.<br>Dizzy summed it up quite well really. She said because I have this little boy lost side to me, I attract the ones who want to mother and reform me and put me in a little box somewhere only they can get to.<br>But thing is, I hate being treated that way.<br><br>TD- I actually find these sorts of posts kind of write themselves pretty easy, because it's just a case of remembering stuff. Then I go back and realise I've missed things that could be relevant, but then I think if it was THAT relevant I'd have put it in in the first place.<br><br>I do write pretty much how I talk, actually, though it probably comes across very different in real life, because I'm quite an inflected speaker and prone to using hand gestures.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-86038169377455177532008-06-27T01:18:00.000-07:002008-06-27T01:18:00.000-07:00Crushed, You come over as reasonably objective whe...Crushed, You come over as reasonably objective when you write stuff like this. Trying to work out your own motivations and others. <br><br>Maybe you can be a bit too self absorbed, selfish? Love should be giving and not keeping score, unselfish. Sometimes if you are really willing to give everything then you get it all back again and more.<br><br>But, the thing is, in the end no love story can end up happily ever after, even the best, most permanent, loves eventually hit the brick wall at the end of time and one of them is alone again... for a time. <br><br>Take what you can while you can and make the best of it you can. Like in all those old black & white WWII movies about brave pilots and their girls. Those people the films were about understood I guess.<br><br>It’s uplifting, and somehow tragic at the same time…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com