tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post90151579674925468..comments2023-10-10T05:17:55.737-07:00Comments on Crushed By Ingsoc: What Crushed Got Up to, August- September 2006Crushedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02479751225625007588noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-31454803518171511532008-03-19T15:20:00.000-07:002008-03-19T15:20:00.000-07:00I AM a complete bastard.I really AM a nice guyYou ...<i>I AM a complete bastard.<br></i><br><br><i>I really AM a nice guy</i><br><br>You can't be both.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-52985317305098544852008-03-19T15:38:00.000-07:002008-03-19T15:38:00.000-07:00Would you have felt different if you knew she was ...Would you have felt different if you knew she was telling the truth about having your baby?<br><br><i>Not judging just asking.</i>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-13222892067251153122008-03-19T16:08:00.000-07:002008-03-19T16:08:00.000-07:00Oestrebunny- Which is why I offer the choice :)I'v...Oestrebunny- Which is why I offer the choice :)<br><br>I've given the facts, you, the readers, decide.<br><br>Fact is, I'm not malicious, just capricious. Everyone who knows me even SLIGHLY in RL, would agree with that. <br>Not reliable. Not in the slightest. But nice. I'll lend you money, GIVE you money, if I don't need it that urgently myself, I'll listen to the deepest, darkest stuff and try help you through it, I give to charity, but I have no sense of moderation, no concept of deferred gratification and generally, I just do what I want, when I want, and deal with the fallout as it happens.<br><br>So, bastard or nice guy. YOU decide :)<br><br>Cherrypie- You see, one crucial fact that anyone who gets to know me on a personal level, soon discovers, is my passionate anti-abortion views. To me, it's murder. Firstly, because I'm actually quite Catholic still, in a funny way, secondly, I lost what I still see as a son, to this practice.<br><br>She knew that. She wanted, I think, to see what I woul do, if I was assured a hypothetical child WOULD live, regardless of my decision.<br><br>It would have been a tricky one. And in fact, this is one of my key flaws.<br>I wouldn't have made the decision myself.<br>I'd have rung my best mates, got a general consensus, and gone with that.<br>Worryingly, that is how I deal with decisions I can't actually make myself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-19072874426183672852008-03-19T16:57:00.000-07:002008-03-19T16:57:00.000-07:00"I lost what I still see as a son, to this practic..."<i>I lost what I still see as a son, to this practice.</i>"<br><br>I can understand this thought totally and think a woman shouldn't make this choice on her own... though I guess some guys would make that difficult.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-37839177977150423862008-03-19T23:03:00.000-07:002008-03-19T23:03:00.000-07:00I'd say she wasn't pregnant. But if I hadn't been ...I'd say she wasn't pregnant. But if I hadn't been sure, would just have played along *after all, it's not too long to wait til the signs show*, but not had sex with her til I knew, just to be proved right ;-)<br><br>But if I'd been her, and I HAD been pregnant, I'd have said the same thing she did; choose now :-) (but the reality is that so many commit, then take back their promises later...)<br><br>As for that sms she found; if she'd known you, she could still have understood that you don't mean everything you say ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-43441971505375566412008-03-19T23:21:00.000-07:002008-03-19T23:21:00.000-07:00I really AM a nice guy, I just have a life that se...<i>I really AM a nice guy, I just have a life that seems to have been written by soap opera writers.</i><br><br>I'm sure you think that but you are writing this soap opera yourself, no one else! Those were all choices you made, even if not with your wits fully about you. <br><br><i>but knowing you want children, just to make sure that a bit of you lives on after your death</i><br><br>That's the worst reason for someone to want to have children you know. <br><br>I'm betting she was not pregnant because I think she would have come looking for you. Could be wrong. Actually I'm surprised you have not tried to find out yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-43767850742685661302008-03-20T06:03:00.000-07:002008-03-20T06:03:00.000-07:00I'd have said the same as Kelly towards the end, t...I'd have said the same as Kelly towards the end, too. What a fascinating insight into the male mind. But you must move on, Crushed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-62760567008832274462008-03-20T11:46:00.000-07:002008-03-20T11:46:00.000-07:00Cherrypie- I got legal advice at the time. Nothing...Cherrypie- I got legal advice at the time. Nothing I could do.<br><br>Eve- I think I guessed correct, but it's bugging me now.<br>Hmm, you're first suggestion, would have been unlikely. I tend to take the view women do the consenting, mine should always be seen as given. I sometimes find the first time with a new women difficult, if you like them, potentially very nervy, sometimes I can't do it, in those cases. But not once you've done it with them already.<br><br>I do play that card a lot, mainly because it's true. The Baker sees it as my most dangerous flaw, as in, the bane of my problems, to be summed up as 'Talking shit to women.'<br><br>Yes, I do. I go way over the top, forgetting every time, I have a short attention span in these matters.<br><br>jmb- I know. But I keep making the same mistakes. The Baker just sees it as a cycle and steps in when he can see danger, like when my escape strategies are failing.<br><br>It is, I know.<br><br>I don't think she was, but the other week, I noticed D had ger echosound scan thing pic as the wallpaper on her phone and I asked her if you loved the baby already, and she said yes.<br><br>I thought that was so inspiring, I began thinking 'I want one! I want a baby!'<br>I've gone all broody :)<br><br>Welshcakes- I think it is an insight in to a CERTAIN type of male mind. Fortunately, me CS and Baker are familiar similar in most of our outlook on the opposite sex. The other two are finally settled and have stopped being the players they were (and they were players, trust me), and now they both seem to be in a determined attempt to get me settled somehow.<br><br>It's not always that easy. These things haunt you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-82678685580431476632008-03-20T14:58:00.000-07:002008-03-20T14:58:00.000-07:00I got legal advice at the time. Nothing I could do...<i>I got legal advice at the time. Nothing I could do.</i><br><br>I know (the nothing I could do part) that was sort of what I was trying to say...<br><br>The wrong thing here is if she was going to decide on her own without your input, she shouldn't have told you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-51431850290055776812008-03-21T01:16:00.000-07:002008-03-21T01:16:00.000-07:00Phew. Quite the tale, sir.While, yes, I am not goi...Phew. Quite the tale, sir.<br>While, yes, I am not going to disagree that you are a more than a bit of a bastard for this one... mind games beget more mind games, and she was hardly innocent in that one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-1437446442311526642008-03-21T03:22:00.000-07:002008-03-21T03:22:00.000-07:00Cherrypie- That would have been hard. We lived tog...Cherrypie- That would have been hard. We lived togetrher in this case, I was with her when she did both tests- I did the dipping of the prongy thing into the urine, both times.<br><br>I tried to stop her, cried like a baby I did.<br><br>And then I just went a six month long binge.<br><br>Princess P- My life is riddled with these tales. If any one of my friends read this tale, without clicking it was me, they'd at least think 'That's the sort of thing that would happen to Crushed'.<br><br>Here is the worst example ever. Age 22.<br>Me and Chimney Swep in my flat. Alsp present, a slightly older woman who, well, did my laundry and slept with me.<br><br>'MXXXX, was you thinking of coming with us, only we was kind of hoping to go on the pull, and that's going to be difficult if you come.'<br><br>So, yes, it is true, I have been a complete bastard to many women over the years, but don right dishonesty to them, rarely. Sins of Omission, yes.<br>If asked, am I sleeping with someone else, I'll be honest.<br><br>If asked the wrong question, you'll get an answer to THAT question.<br>Ask me if I'm sleeping with C, I'll say no, if it's in fact F I'm sleeping with.<br><br>So I never lie. But don't ever expect me to tell you what you didn't ask :)<br><br>I've never been sexually faithful. Never managed it. I wasn't even faithful to Joanna.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com