tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post9074247481164363087..comments2023-10-10T05:17:55.737-07:00Comments on Crushed By Ingsoc: The Theology of Free LoveCrushedhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02479751225625007588noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-25060819688860089312008-05-04T11:56:00.000-07:002008-05-04T11:56:00.000-07:00The true definition of evil. Sorry. Quite coincide...The true definition of evil. Sorry. Quite coincidentally, [if you look at the visitor stats], I also posted on this topic.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-82540501935242694552008-05-04T12:02:00.000-07:002008-05-04T12:02:00.000-07:00"The daimonic," wrote May, "is any natural functio..."The daimonic," wrote May, "is any natural function which has the power to take over the whole person. Sex and eros, anger and rage, and the craving for power are examples. The daimonic can be either creative or destructive and is normally both. When this power goes awry, and one element usurps control over the total personality, we have "daimon possession," the traditional name through history for psychosis.<br><br>One way trip to hell, my son.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-46112999343317102192008-05-04T12:36:00.000-07:002008-05-04T12:36:00.000-07:00I don't know.My main gripe with monogamy, is not s...I don't know.<br><br>My main gripe with monogamy, is not so much the sex aspect- though I concede I've never quite managed the whole sexual fidelity thing- it's the fact it leads to people wasting their lives. I see so many couples sink into some kind of isolation, focussed only on eachother, their life ambition sapped, unable to commit to causes because 'they need to spend more time with the family'<br><br>Speaking from my own experience, when I've been living with a woman, it's been completely unproductive. And a lot of that is the expectation.<br><br>But yes, it's always occurred to me we have a 'grass is always greener' situation. Being single is a pain, because you have to scouting around for intimacy. Being attached is ten times worse, because you have to sacrifice so much to it.<br><br>As it stands, for example, I can JUST ABOUT juggle blogging with my job and my social life.<br><br>I think for me Free Love doesn't mean sleeping around, just being able to order your life so that you can have someone in it, without them expecting anything from you.<br><br>I think I'd just like to be one of those monks who has a secret lover in the neighbouring convent he climbs over the walls to visit in secret every night :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-83631808194199955582008-05-04T12:40:00.000-07:002008-05-04T12:40:00.000-07:00:):)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-61438405024835131522008-05-04T12:55:00.000-07:002008-05-04T12:55:00.000-07:00It recognises that causes come first. A man who wi...<i>It recognises that causes come first. A man who will turn his back on his beliefs for his wife and family, may be a good husband and father, he is a failure as a human being.</i><br><br>This statement just about sums up everything I disagree with in this post.<br><br>You try to pin priority on the things you think will make you a happier person, ultimately denying yourself the things that <b>will</b> make you happy.<br><br>Reading between the lines, it sometimes seems as though you use your politics and your religion as an excuse to avoid getting those things for yourself.<br><br>I'm just not sure if it's us you're trying to convince of your free love theory, or yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-70971254369798981422008-05-04T14:05:00.000-07:002008-05-04T14:05:00.000-07:00'You try to pin priority on the things you think w...'You try to pin priority on the things you think will make you a happier person, ultimately denying yourself the things that will make you happy.'<br><br>Empirical evidence. I do get very passionate about causes, though for much of my life I've been a rebel without one, I think. Generally speaking, I'm a lot happier when I feel I've got a cause to fight and the larger a role in my life devoted to that, the happier I am.<br><br>'Reading between the lines, it sometimes seems as though you use your politics and your religion as an excuse to avoid getting those things for yourself.'<br><br>Or another way of looking at it would be, I acknowledge the existence of higher values than my own happiness.<br><br>'I'm just not sure if it's us you're trying to convince of your free love theory, or yourself.'<br><br>Well, the whole point is everyone should be free to find love in their own way, on their own terms. <br><br>We should each be able to set our own rules, on our own terms.<br><br>I don't think you should be browbeaten into accepting a life that will make you unhappy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-47645856371590404492008-05-04T14:55:00.000-07:002008-05-04T14:55:00.000-07:00I don't think you should be browbeaten into accept...<i>I don't think you should be browbeaten into accepting a life that will make you unhappy.</i><br><br>And yet it would seem you've managed to do that to yourself anyway.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-40150810684577538292008-05-04T15:46:00.000-07:002008-05-04T15:46:00.000-07:00I don't know.How do you define happiness?True happ...I don't know.<br><br>How do you define happiness?<br><br>True happiness, surely, consists of believing your life is making a difference, in a positive way.<br>How each of us achieve that, may well be different.<br><br>I'm not sure why you think I've accepted a life that makes me unhappy.<br><br>I've identified the things that have the potential to give me long term satisfaction, and those which, on the basis of empirical evidence, there is no objective belief for being certain can do so.<br><br>We have to accept the life we are given- honestly. Many people try to avoid the life path written for them, and they suffer.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-24816778955964355702008-05-04T16:13:00.000-07:002008-05-04T16:13:00.000-07:00It's not up to me to define happiness, it is entir...It's not up to me to define happiness, it is entirely subjective and individual.<br><br>Your posts don't strike me as being written by a generally happy man, that's why I think that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-36288486426742885132008-05-04T16:36:00.000-07:002008-05-04T16:36:00.000-07:00:)Well, there's ONE very sound reason for that, bu...:)<br>Well, there's ONE very sound reason for that, but it scarcely needs mentioning, so I won't...<br><br>Seriously though, that does have a lot to do with it, I think.<br><br>The prospect of failing is never an appealing one, especially if the cause of your failure is something so completely trivial.<br><br>It's like losing the World Cup because you didn't bribe the ref.<br><br>Yes, I do get up every day and wonder if my life truly has been a total waste of time- I don't want it to be, because I'm passionately convinced that it CAN have a purpose, and a valuable one.<br><br>But some days it feels like a losing battle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3334391160365031546.post-43596310098529998872008-05-04T18:06:00.000-07:002008-05-04T18:06:00.000-07:00crushed.. I really reckon you are a fucking intere...crushed.. <br>I really reckon you are a fucking interesting individual. Your ideas are unique and you are pretty solid in your conviction about how monogamy is not the answer for you - you have well debated points - you are not a goose at all.. I reckon you'd be a fucking headache at a dinner party.. or maybe you'd be a joy.. <br><br>But I also believe it makes you closed minded.<br><br>If you fell in love with a woman who ended up moving to Delhi.. fucking move with her mate.. just move into another zone and challenge yourself a bit. Your high school buddies do not offer you a definitive life experience/perspective.. You will not cease to exist if you sidestep on your career path.. your blog will always be here for you no matter where you are.. <br><br>When I come here I get brilliance - I get strength - but I also sometimes get narrow minded superior sounding bull headed shite.. <br><br>Don't keep giving yourself conditions to live by that you have to justify to yourself over and over and over.. <br><br>(ps. Damn. I am not the Angel am I? For a minute I thought maybe I was..)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com