Nonces

You might look at the above Image and think 'Michael Jackson'. I look up and see see something different.

I just erased a sentence there- because I don't want to be sued. I have a personal opinion here which may not be related to what I write next.

If he had been guilty, then he would have come into that category of the unbridled evil. I'm very blunt about the term I use here; Nonces.

You can't apologise for them; there is no scheme of morality you can come up with to defend them; as human beings, they are just f**ked, and you can't def**k them.

If I try to conceptualise evil, it's human form is the nonce.

AS I guess you'd expect. I had to come to terms with an environment in a state of permanent witchunt, searching for the embodiment of evil hiding amongst us still redeemable wrongdoers.

On the other side of a thick steel door, lay their home, a carbon replica of ours.

I developed a nightmare then, that they learned magic and passed through the walls and overcame us.
I still sometimes have that dream.

At that time they passed out of that murky world of which you know nothing, into being the neighbours.
And sometimes, one would be outed, caught.

And that would haunt you- you'd looked into the eyes of one of them- into the abyss.

It was a chilling thought, and one which still chills me. It darkens my thoughts.
It's that, that memory which truly fragments my sleep, knowing, having seen into, looked into the eyes of pure evil.

I came across several closet nonces as part of my Listener work. That was something too, which kept me awake at night.



But one can't escape from it- I guess I'm pretty approachable and I guess I look like someone you can offload too. The amount of people I know personally who've confided in me, regarding being sexually abused, is a scarily high proprortion in RL.

It's far more prevalent in our society than we care to acknowledge. I even find myself looking at people who'se faces have that quality one learned to spot, if one was going to prove remotely accurate in an environment where knowing instinctively who to trust, is a life skill- and thinking 'Is he a nonce, I wonder?'

Some of the things I have heard are sick beyond believing. In RL, you can tell when someone has really p*ssed me off, becausing I'll curl my lip and snarl 'F**king nonce.'

The thing is, I have quite strong views on what is and is not nonce behaviour. There are a few examples where I think a PRINCIPLE, whilst legal, is still one that isn't right in my book.

My defintion of a nonce is a simple one; Somebody who exploits a weaker party for the purpose of their own sexual gratification, without the other party being capable of resisting that exploitation.

Primarily, the exploiter has to be male. I don't care how many fifteen years olds Amy Gehring screwed, she's not a nonce, because you tell me in what sense any fifteen year old boy turns down sex with a twenty five year old, no strings attached?

It's not the ages themselves that matter; it's the relationship of the ages.

The act of consent lies with, being crude, the penetrated party.
As for an act to require consent, requires a propsal, let's call the parties, the proposing and consenting parties, though we also clearly mean, the penetrating and penetrated parties. This is what is being consented to; the physical entry of one person into another.

So clearly, there cannot be any undue advantage in this process, resting with the proposing party, the entering party.

An age difference in his favour is an advantage, the other way is not, so there is nothing sinister, and cannot be, with an older woman and a younger man.

The other way round, there is potential for a male to use his greater life experience to push the proposal.
So I would say, for a male over twenty, sex with sixteen year old girl, is not quite acceptable.
I would apply- and do- a simple 20% rule. It is wrong for a man to have any sexual relations with a male or female of much less than 80% of his age.

So personally, I include the thirty two year old man with the seventeen year old girlfriend with disapproval.
I don't think it's right.



It's exploiting youthful innocence.
And 'She were't no virgin' is no excuse- you all know what I mean.

Because by tolerating this, we are tolerating a society which turns a blind eye to a whole subculture of abuse- because we are not adopting a zero tolerance approach to part of the problem- exploitation of young girls by older men.