Me, You Lot and Free Love- where We All Stand

I think this really is a good time for a clarifying post.
This blog has had problems in the past which I'm determined it will NOT go though again.

First things first.

Yes, the ultimate aim of this blog is to promote a revolution.
Very definitely so.
I'm quite open about that. Did anyone NOT notice that a global revolution, in both political and cultural terms was the stated aim of this blog?

How it is to be attempted is here.
What I hope it will achieve is here.
The ideals behind it are here.

The blog is quite definitely written with the clear aim of selling you- and I'll use the word again- selling you my ideas. Too damn right it is. It's that important.
You wouldn't really expect me to hold back on selling my message as effectively as I can now, would you?

Ultimately, I hope all this will bear fruit and enough people will see the logic of what I'm saying for real political action to be possible.
Not violent action. I mean mass protests and mass civil disobedience.

I believe we CAN bring this system down by simply refusing to obey. And the prime objective of this blog is tell you why you should stop obeying and show them the same V sign that I do.

This is a bit more than a hobby to me. It's my raison d'etre.

Since I started this blog, I have never felt so sure of anything; that I have found my calling in life. Promoting this message, the message that ultimately this blog promotes, is what I want to do with my life. To the exclusion of anything else.

This blog holds the place to me that the Church holds to a priest, or a wife does to a husband.

This is my life cause, by this I will be judged.
And I have absolutely no intention of failing.

Grandiose?
For sure. But nothing was ever achieved WITHOUT faith in the seemingly unachievable. But it does require total dedication.

Now I suppose it helps for me to be blunt about certain things. This blogging business is a vast use of time. However, it's a far wider reaching platform than me sounding off every night at The Star and Garter or the Westcroft. Hence, it's worth the dedication.
I clearly do not do this just for fun. The aim is to ram home messages to people. And I take great care in choosing my words, my images, the lot.

Yes I am deliberately and consciously SELLING you my ideas and my perspective on the world in the sincere hope some of you will buy it and come on board.

And I'm doing it openly.

This is no cult I propose, with myself as dark, Satanic master.

It's a popular movement dedicated to changing the world for the better. A movement open in its aims and open in how it goes about it.

As many of you will see, I visit a variety of blogs. Blogs of all shades of opinion, but blogs of ordinary people too. Because it is the people that this change must take place. when people stop leaving politics to the politicians and understand that POLITICS MEANS PEOPLE. That means, we all need to take responsibility. Time to break down these barriers.

I actually read all your posts. I comment on the ones where I have something to say.

Now I guess it's best I'm up front about my relations with all of you. There are some blogs I visit just because you're bloody nice people. Some I visit because they're well written and thoughtful. And some I visit just to see what the brainwashed dupes of the system are bleating today. To get an idea of exactly which totems need a good kicking in a post.

Several of you mail me regularly. I have many in IM too. Several of you I chat to almost every day.
And I think it's good we get certain things clear.

First, though I prefer being called Crushed online since that is my online identity, I'm not going to continue deleting comments where people accidental call me Joe. Indeed, if anyone noticed I let one stand where Crashie called me 'Oey', because that's what she calls me and I figured it didn't give the game way. Comments containing my full name will still be deleted obviously, but I don't think it's much of a secret now that my name happens to be Joe.

Now I don't think anyone is bothered by my relations with male readers, but some people really get their knickers in a twist over my relations with female readers.

Firstly, if people write about sex on their blogs, guess what, I'll write about sex in their comments sections. My guess is that when people write posts about sex, they expect comments to be about sex. Furthermore, I will visit blogs which write about sex, since I believe our attitudes to sex as a society is one area where a massive paradigm shift needs to occur. So I am really not apologising for the numerous count of sexually explicit comments I've written.

None of them were on the lines of the 55 year old who left a comment on the blog of a 23 year old girl to say 'If you want help getting pregnant, either I or Crushed can oblige'.

Now THAT, that is sleazy.

Now it isn't in fact sleazy for me to make the odd innuendo, where appropriate, firstly because of my age, thirty, secondly because I only offer innuendoes where it is clear the post is written in that vein, and thirdly because I make no secret of the fact I don't believe in sexual chastity or monogamy.

You will notice my Blog Policy has been updated to include the new policy on Free Love offers.

Basically, I've put that in to clarify matters. No, I don't blog to get laid. Because in terms of energy put in, it's really not a very effective way to get laid. I can just cross the road to the pub.



But, by the same token, I'm quite easy about these things. As I say, I don't believe in sexual chastity. I actually think monogamy is an unethical concept in many ways.

Now I think all women who ever chatted to me online (bar Ms Fruitloops) will confirm, sex rarely rears it's head in conversation. It just doesn't. It appears far more in my posts than in one on one discussions. If it does, it's by and large philosophical. However, I'm not going to deny that some of the IM conversations I've had can get a bit fruity. Never sordid though. It seems the women I IM are of the better sort. In fact, the majority I wouldn't dream of talking dirty with. But if people want to talk dirty, I'm happy too.

Basically, I take you all as you find me. And in that sense, it really is true, if you mailed me and said 'I'm in Birmingham this weekend. Fancy meeting up for sex', the chances are, I'd consider it. After all, I have no reason in principle not to.

It's certainly a good way of interacting and emoting with readers- so yes, I wouldn't reject the idea out of hand. For that reason alone, if nothing else.

Now the problem is always going to arise- as it did before- of readers who may want more.

How do I cover this honestly and fairly?

Many people out there want to settle down and find a life partner. I actually don't, particularly. As I've said before, in reality I've structured my life to make it one where I don't actually need one. That doesn't mean I wouldn't consider the idea, just that it really isn't my main priority. I'm not LOOKING for someone.

It's been observed by several bloggers that often blogging is a singles game. People often tail off if they find a partner. Well, you have to remember in my case, that ain't true. A life partner isn't in itself a selling point. I can do perfectly well without one. The fact remains, partner or not, I'm still going to post nightly, still going to visit the same amount of blogs, still going to interact with everyone else online as if said partner does not exist.
And I'm still going to have pretty much the same social life.

But it's more than that.

The last year has certainly taught me, you really have to put your money where your mouth is.

I believe the total opposite to what most people believe. To me, sexual chastity is a vice. And sexual promiscuity a virtue.

And I want to state that publicly.

This blogger is committed to fighting the whole hypocritical, dual standard, outmoded approach to human sexuality.

And I've realised, that when you're running a blog dedicated to fighting monogamy and sexual chastity (amongst other things), you really can't live a private life which actually consists of you practising what you publicly state to be a vice.

Because the fact remains, I'm urging you all to avoid sexual chastity.

One of the concepts I want to spread is a new wave of feminism where women REFUSE to be sexually chaste, where women turn round and say 'If you want me, accept my lovers too'. It's the best way, in my opinion, to break sexual chastity and the dual standard for good.

I will not put myself in a position where my dedication to overthrowing monogamy and sexual chastity can be questioned.

So the best way I can do this is by stating the following;

I will not accept from any woman any offer of sexual chastity. Furthermore, I will not accept any woman who does NOT have other lovers.
Regardless of any nagging sentiments of jealousy I may have, they can be overcome and I will do so because such sentiments are the result of social conditioning, and do not rest in the human heart.

Furthermore, I will not offer any promise of sexual chastity myself.

It is my intention that if I do settle down, it is with a woman- or women- who have other lovers and preferably give birth to a nice brood of coffee coloured children, all of differing parentage.

Because that is the world I want to see and am committed to.

So I'm openly stating now for the record.

One of the chief causes of this blog is to overthrow sexual chastity.

To create a world where nobody feels the need to pledge sexual fidelity to one person, where sex and love are separate, but where sex and love can be still be united, but still do not have to mean exclusivity, where men take pride in the number of lovers the woman they love has, rather than feel resentment.

So yes, one way I'm thinking of standing by my principles, I've already told you. I'm minded to set up a house where myself and three other guys- two of us white, two of us black, all live communally with four women, two white, two black, and all create one big mixed race communal family.

The other is to actually commit to and marry a highly promiscuous white girl who publicly sleeps with as many black guys as she possibly can , and trust me, I'd publicise it. I'd even set up a private blog where you could all watch it.

And I'd love to see the expressions on the faces of the doctor's and the midwives at the hospital when Child 1 pops out...

You see, none of this would shame me. You know why? Because it accords on so many levels with my principles. To me, it's a positive way of showing how much I despise the vestiges of women as property and black people as second class human beings that still pervade our society. So much so that I'd be proud to show how much I despised the traditional dignity most men treasure.



Whereas, I am thoroughly ashamed that ANYONE ever could have thought I would even pay lip service to the idea of a faithful sexual commitment to a woman who'd return it. And put the desires of one solitary woman above my principles.

And I am so glad I am free of such nasty concepts.

Love does not own.

Spread the Love.

Promiscuity is a Virtue.



Footnote: This time last year I had to deal with the shame of a woman running round the internet telling everyone we were an item. I have never felt so ashamed in my life. With this post, I feel I have regained my pride.